So I've come up with the brilliant idea of blogging about my daily epiphanies or realizations.  Today is November 23 but I'd like time to go back 4 minutes so it could still be November 22 so when I say "today I learned" it would be applied to the 22nd instead of the 23rd, but let's deal.  So "today" I learned that when my lover and I fight, we make up changes we are going to ensue to establish the fact that we (whoever it is that is pissed off) is pissed off.  After claiming that we are going to change, we (over years of training) must either apologize for the outburst, pretend like we are going to change just to observe the effects on the other person (and get what we want a.k.a. an apology or love), have overly aggressive sex, or not talk.  Unfortunately/Fortunately, we resort to pretending to change just to observe the effects we have on one another when we are clearly angry (trying to impose guilt on one another I guess?).  Well now that I have discovered this, I don't think any more of these false, nonsensical outbursts and claims of change will be happening anymore, sometimes I just love being able to see life's issues be solved by my brain (and yeah whatever you probably knew this before I did it just kind of felt good to understand it).  Ya dig? :)